A good mentor, following Paul’s example in 1 Thessalonians 2, focuses on the Bible, pays Attention and serves as a Model. BAM!
“For you remember, brothers, our labor and toil: we worked night and day, that we might not be a burden to any of you, while we proclaimed to you the gospel of God.” (1 Thess. 2:9. See also 1 Thess. 2:3-4, 12, 13)
Each time Timothy and I met, I was purposeful about teaching the Bible. This looked different at various times. Sometimes we worked through a book together. Sometimes we worked through a scripture passage one of us had to study for ministry. Sometimes I shared something from my quiet time. Plan ahead to use the Bible in your meetings. Come prepared.
“For you know how, like a father with his children, we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.” (1 Thess. 2:11-12. See also 1 Thess. 2:7b, 9a)
I gave Timothy personal attention. I showed interest in his life (joys and struggles). We talked about real life and I tried to help where possible. (I even introduced him to his future wife!) Don’t just ask questions to tick the box, meet him or her on a personal level. Hold them accountable to the spiritual truths they’re learning and to spiritual disciplines.
“You are witnesses, and God also, how holy and righteous and blameless was our conduct toward you believers.” (1 Thess. 2:10. See also 1 Thess. 2:5-7)
Be an example. Demonstrate for your mentee:
As part of modeling, get your disciple involved in ministry with you. Serve together, side by side.
This article first appeared in the Spring 2018 Engage.